Can’t Buy Me Love
“Whatever happens to your popularity, stay yourself, don’t change to please others.”
-Cindy Mancini
I really need to update more often, life though, what can you do? I know most people are on the side of the fence that 2020 has just been a shit year. I mean yeah it kind of has been for the movie industry with everything being lockdown and theaters being closed. As for me personally it’s had its ups and downs for sure but mostly ups. Here me out before you think I’m blowing smoke and I assure you this leads into my movie pick for this post. There are two very important reasons I am happy with this year and wouldn’t change it.
Number 1 and most important is the people I have met. One person in particular. I have never met anyone like this person before and yes they can be a pain in the ass like a 12in dildo but so can I 🤣🤣. They are a great person who I will always have an unending love for that can’t be measured. Number 2, I got on much needed medication for anxiety/depression that I have struggled with my whole life and started therapy. I actually owe number 2, to number 1. I refuse to lose them out of my life for any reason and that means making some changes so I did.
One of the things I am learning about myself in therapy that leads into my movie pick, is that everyone shows their love differently. My way is that I am very selfless and I like gifting people things and taking care of people, that’s how I show I care and love them. I am also learning as it has been pointed out by my therapist and my brother, that I have to air on the side of caution. You can’t buy love. I feel unloved and want to be loved by people so bad that I go overboard and unintentionally try to buy their love. That stems from a whole mess of childhood issues with my father.
“Nerds, jocks. My side, your side. Man, it’s all bullshit. It’s hard enough just trying to be yourself. I know cause I messed up. I tried to buy my way in. But Kenneth, he’s not trying to buy anybody, he’s just trying to make friends; being himself.”
-Ronald Miller
Without further ado I give you Can’t Buy Me Love, one of my absolute favorite rom-coms. If you haven’t seen it, I advise you to put it on your list asap! Before Patrick Dempsey was McDreamy on Greys Anatomy, he was Ronald Miller. The guy who went from geek to chic and back again. The guy who felt unloved and undeserving of the attention and affection of Amanda Peterson’s Cindy Mancini(God rest her soul). So much so that when he saw her at the mall, he offered to buy her a chic outfit and pay her 1000$(big money back then) just to be seen with and pretend to date him.
As they hangout more often to perpetuate their charade two things happen: Ronald’s popularity at school and with Cindy’s friends soars. Cindy starts to develop real feelings for Ronald unbeknownst to him. He thinks its just part of the charade which leads to their fake break up to their fake relationship but pepper with truth and real feelings from Cindy when she catches him in the bathroom with another girl trying to ride the Ronald Miller train. Cindy hurt and devastated because she developed real feelings gets drunk and lashes out at the party telling everyone the truth of what has been going on. That she was paid to date him to help him be popular.
After a lunchtime confrontation when Ronald stands up for the friend he left behind in his pursuit of popularity, explaining to the jocks and popular kids that Kenneth is trying to do it the right way, not buy his way in. Ronald is redeemed in the eyes of Cindy and her friends who were watching on. The movie ends with a very iconic scene, much like John Cusack standing outside the window with a boombox in Say Anything. Ronald comes to mow Cindy’s family’s lawn and she initially jumps in the jeep with her friends and rides off but they return her moments later and she jumps on the back of Ronald’s lawn mower, steals his hat and they ride off into the sunset negotiating future dates.









Alex’s alcoholic wastrel of a brother Daniel, played by the hilarious Adam Brody who constantly hits on Grace. Alex’s mother Becky played by Andie MacDowell who is always somewhat cagey about her approval. Cocaine addicted sister Emilie, played by Melanie Scrofano, who does not even bother showing up in time for the ceremony with her jackass of a husband Fitch played by Kristian Braun. And Alex’s father Tony, played by Revenge patriarch Henry Czerny, who has no problem announcing his outright displeasure at Grace’s status. And lastly Aunt Helene played by Nicky Guadagni who has done nothing but stare daggers at Grace since they met.




























It is a visionary tale worthy of National Geographic, and Disney hit it out of the park yet again, because lets face it, Doesn’t Disney usually? It holds the record for highest grossing animated film of all time, even though it is technically “live action” photo realism, dethroning Frozen. And it has a killer voice cast: